5 ways to reduce your child induced anxiety.

We all love our kids but, sometimes they simply drive us crazy. As someone with bipolar depression I know this all too well. I am working on being a calmer mother this year. I have come up with some simple steps to lessen anxiety in these hot headed situations.

The first three will work if you have some time on your hands. These will work when your children are cranky or you are having a high anxiety day naturally without the children driving you nuts. Have them play in their room or watch a cartoon to be able to do these activities.

  1.  Get creative with some kind of art project or writing something. I know a lot of people that are great at paint or drawing. It is super fun and calming. My creativity in unleashed through my writing. It helps me have a more focused mind about what I am writing about and less about the world around me. After just a few minutes this will help you be more relaxed and ready to face the challenges of parenting once again.
  2. How you look has a lot to do with your confidence level and how you feel. If you are stressed out maybe a few minutes in the bathroom will do you some good. Maybe you have time to take a quick shower, and put on some makeup. If not you can still always put your hair up, and put on some perfume and lip gloss. It will help you be calm and you will also look great for the rest of the day.
  3. Prepping dinner is a calming thing that you are going to have to do later in the day anyway. So chop your stress away with those veggies and fruits. I know peeling potatoes gets rid of the anger that has been boiling inside me. Making homemade bread tastes great and the kneading process is very calming. This will also help you make a wonderful and nutritious meal for your family.

These next methods are things that you can do with you kids next to you.

  1.  Drinking water can calm your mind quickly and also make you feel healthy. There is nothing better than a cold glass of water on a hot day! It also gets you mind thinking of eating healthy.
  2. Going outside is a simple and fun method to relax you. You can sit on the porch and watch them ride bike, go down the side, or anything else they want to do. A great thing to also do outside is take a walk. It will help you get a workout into your day. Either way will calm both you and your children down for the rest of the day. It will hopefully help them fall asleep earlier.

I hope these tips help you stay strong on high anxiety days, and be a more happy parent!

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How I have been healing in 2017

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This pic is from 2015 but it is one of the best ones I have of me and my girls.

In the beginning of this year, I have been going through a lot of pain. Several things have really broken me as a person in my life. I have never really allowed myself to heal from them. I just kept on going.

The first thing is the death of my beloved grandma. I was her “special one” the one that she loved the most. She babysat me a lot when I was very little before my little sister was born. After that, she took me shopping every weekend from age 7 until  I graduated high school. We spent so much time together. When she got sick me and my husband were there to visit several times to help her out. However I wasn’t there when she needed me the most, the night she passed away. I thought I had until the next morning after me and my husband worked a 12-hour shift but she passed away that night. I never got to say goodbye. It hurt so bad for the rest of my life.

This year I realized that it will be a whole in my life forever, but I need to allow myself to heal for my sanity. She would not want me to worry and hurt about it as much as I have been. She knows that I love her due to my past actions. Always talking to her every night when she was lonely because she was seperated from my grandpa. I also helped her a ton in the hospital when she was sick. Remembering the good things really helped me heal.

The other thing I am healing from the poor treatment I received from my mother while growing up. She treated my sister as her special one and made my clean our room alone, and allowed her to beat me up while growing up. My mother self self injured herself a lot due to her schizophrenia and she also hit my because I looked too much like my dad. They were on and off again all the time growing up, and I was and always will be a daddy’s girl. I also grew up self injuring myself. It is a scary habit and I have always been trying to fight. My worst nightmare is that my girls pick up on the habit. My mom has ruined my life but I forgive her.

The ways I deal with it are forgiving her and my little sister, and being a better mom for my girls than she was for me. I never want to see my girls go through massive problems like I had to deal with. I love them so much! We talk about once a week, it still tough but I need to forgive her for the both of us.

I am also getting medical help for my bipolar depression. This has helped me immensely.  I no longer have the super depressive periods of my life that I used to have, and I also do not get manically happy where I end up ignoring my girls due to cleaning the house all day. I also have a medicine that I can take if I have panic attacks that used to make me injure myself.  I  am at a super calm and happy stage in my life and I hope it lasts forever.

Nicole

Ten Ways I am rocking Motherhood!

I was nominated to do the ten ways I am rocking motherhood challenge by Elizabeth at worth writing for.

I try to be the best mom I can be every day. I ran into a really awesome challenge that inspires you to think of and name ten reasons that you rock as a mom. At first I could not think of any specific ideas but then I really thought about it and starting writing an idea down on at a time when I thought of it. I now have more than ten but I will bring you my favorite ten things that make me rock as a mom.

  1. I cook a good dinner every night with as little pre made foods as I can. I find it to be frugal, and more healthy than buying premade foods. My favorite foods that I make on my own are chicken sandwiches, and mac and cheese. I also make bread from scratch once a month and I am currently trying to get motivated to do it daily and not buy it store bought anymore. This helps my husband be home with my girls more instead of working overtime which provides a more stable home life for my girls.
  2. Kitchen time with mom!- I let my girls in the kitchen with my at least once a week. We often bake cookies together. Sometimes my five year old will help me with dinner and my three year old will help serve it. If I don’t teach them these much needed life skills to feed themselves nobody will and they will be stuck buying pre made foods as adults or else having to learn everything off of the internet as an adult like I had to. I want better for my girls than I had growing up.
  3. I am a work at home mom. My girls will always be able to count on me to be home with them. I can watch all of their firsts. I can help them with their homework, and cook dinner for them every night. I love this quality time I have with my girls and would not trade it for the world.
  4. Dance parties. If we are all getting too stressed out I will turn on my girls’ favorite song Crazy Frog on loud enough for them to hear it, and we will have a dance party. It will make everyone happy again and help promote a stress free home. This is especially helpful if my husband will be home any minute because he deserves peace and quiet when he gets home from his stressful day at work. Plus the girls are in a great mood and ready to give him his get home hugs and kisses. (Yes this is actually a daily thing in our home and I love it!)
  5. I allow creativity! My five year old daughter is a very creative girl. She comes up with her own outfits and hairstyles every day. Some of these outfits are quite colorful and not quite perfectly matching, to the level that some other moms may change their kids’ clothes. I just let her wear what she wants as long as it still looks somewhat ok. I don’t want to squash her creative spirit, and she goes to school with a smile on her face.
  6. Books- I read to my girls every night. I usually read their library books right before bed twice during the week. Every other night of the week they pick out one book each and I read it to them. I believe that reading is very important and a great way for them to gain knowledge at a very early age. If they begin reading early hopefully they will keep those habits throughout their lives.
  7. Play- I play with my girls every day for at least a half hour. I put a spin on it though, that they don’t really realize. I make the games educational. I have my 5 year old write a story of her own and read it to her sister. I also write my own story to read to both of them. Another big thing for us to play with together is play dough. It makes both girls be creative with their hands and keeps their brain busy.
  8. Crafts- Crafting is good for the soul. It helps you relax after having a bad day. If my five year old daughter is having an extremely hard day after school we hug and then do a craft together as a family. We like to make heart people, play dresses, and paper snowflakes. There are tons of other crafts we do but these are the most common ones.
  9. Passions- As a mom I never gave up my passion to write. I write all the time weather in my head planning, typing on the computer, or on paper. It keeps me calm and gives me something to be excited about every day. It helps me not go over the edge screaming at my girls when I have a bad day. We all have our own bad days at moms but how we handle them is what counts.
  10. Stepmom- I am a supportive stepmom I my 20 and 26 year old stepkids. I am very close in age to my stepson so it is more like a brother and sister bond with him but I am still very supportive of both of my stepkids. My girls love when they visit and I love the fact that I can carry on the support in life that my own stepmom gave me growing up even though we were someone close in age. It just makes me feel great to be following in her wonderful footsteps and I love how much she taught me about life, and how it turns out good if you just keep a positive attitude.

 

This is what I thought of when I searched myself for my good qualities of why I rock as a mom. We all have our good qualities but these are mine. These are the things I try to hold true to in the good times and the bad.  If I stop doing one of these it feels like my life is out of whack and I go right back to it, it is my rhythm of life. I hope my girls one day look back and appreciate all the things I do for them as I look back at my own mom and stepmom and appreciate everything they did for me.

The perfect doll Blanket + toddler homemaking tips

      My Daisy is a super nurturing two-year-old with amazing homemaking skills. She walks around and hugs everyone all the time. She loves to cuddle. She also loves to take care of her baby dolls, especially her Baby Alive doll she so affectionately named Elsa.

She takes care of her doll all day long from getting her dressed in the morning all the way down to putting her to bed at night. She is such a good little mommy to her doll. She always has had clothes and diapers for it. However, she was missing one major thing for her. A blanket for her little baby doll to sleep with. She would beg for one every night. We used small sized towels but it was not the same thing as a real blanket.

Then one day I found the perfect one on Etsy. It was made by an amazing mother and daughter business called KraftsbyAngandLiz. They make amazing doll clothes and doll blankets that are extremely high quality. As soon as you touch the blanket you will wish that it was a full sized blanket. The blanket is super soft, cuddly, and just perfect for your little one to wrap their doll in and cuddle it all through the night. There is one thing that makes it even more of a perfect fit, though. It has the Elsa character on it. So she has an Elsa character blanket for her little doll that she named Elsa. She is completely happy with this blanket and it made a perfect early birthday gift for my sweet little girl.

If you want a super nurturing child with homemaking skills here are some tips.

  1. Show them a great example if you are nurturing to them then chances are they will be nurturing to others because it is just a natural behavior to them. Give them lots of hugs and kisses.
  2. Let them help you clean. Let them follow you and do dishes, laundry, cook dinner, and other homemaking skills. The more they learn now the more likely they will grow up to be able to be a good wife and mother in the future because it will come natural to them. My little Daisy helps me with all of the above on a regular basis. She is learning how to fold laundry right now and tries to learn more daily.
  3. Let them have one doll that is more important to them then all of the rest. If you give them limited toy options they will be more likely to feel that they are special. As soon as she got her Baby Alive I only kept on other dolls out and put the others in the closet. She now uses the doll she affectionately named Elsa exclusively. As soon as we get done cleaning for the day she goes to her play kitchen and “teaches” her doll how to do all of the homemaking skills I just taught her. It makes for great practice.

      So if you want to teach your little girl homemaking skills there is still a way to do it in today’s world. You just need to work on it daily and have a lot of patience. I know it is God’s will for my little girls to have these skills no matter how they choose to use them in the future.

Nicole

A great routine for school success (DITL of a 5 year old)

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My Bobbie is very creative and takes a long time to get things accomplished because she wants to add her personal touch to everything. She starts her getting ready for school routine the night before like many children.

4 pm- Homework Time. She always has some kind of homework. Whether it is a simple day counting to 100, or a harder day consisting or reading a book and doing a worksheet. She does it all right before dinner so she doesn’t have to worry about getting it done all night.

4:15 pm- Daddy’s Home- She always gives him a big hug when he gets home, and they talk for a few minutes. They play together if she has all of her homework done. They love playing video games together on his computer. World of Warcraft is their game of choice.

5 pm- Dinner is done. We pray and teach her her some kind or a moral lesson at dinner, tonight it is how she is supposed to protect her little sister and not fight with her. She starts leading the conversation talking about games they can play together and say she loves us all so much.

5:30 pm- Bath time. She uses her favorite bubble bath that was custom made for her. It is a pink cotton candy scented bubble bath. She also uses her favorite shampoo and body wash She splashes and relaxes with her little sister.

6:00 pm- Out of the bath she picks out her clothes for the next day. I do this so I have time to make sure her outfit is school appropriate while she is sleeping so there is less arguing in the morning. She watches a video or two after this if she has time. She really likes surprise eggs, and my little pony.

6:30 pm- Lights out! She needs a lot of sleep at night or she is very grumpy in the morning. (Oops my fault, she is just like me when I was a kid.) She will sleep until 6:30 am if her little sister does not wake her up. She cuddles with her favorite teddy bear she has constantly held on to since she was 9 months old. She got it from her great grandpa.

6:25 am- I turn her favorite music Crazy Frog on her tv. This gets her to wake up happily.

6:30 am- She puts her outfit on and gives her little sister morning hugs.

6:35 am- It is time for her to put on her favorite accessories. She loves her custom made necklace. It is pink and sparkly just like her cheerful personality. She also uses her lip gloss, children’s perfume, and lotion. They all are custom made and smell like cotton candy. All accessories were made by Divinely Inspired by Nicole and are super high quality, and extremely durable. My two-year-old has the same things and are all safe for her and she hasn’t broken her necklace yet after a whole month.

6:45 am My precious Bobbiesue helps little Daisy May pick out her clothes for the day. I try to down a cup of coffee at this time. This is pretty much their morning play time. After they pick the outfit out I get Daisy dressed.

7:00 am- Both girls get their snow pants, coats, hats, and gloves on. This winter has been crazy cold here in Wisconsin. I need to make sure both girls are super bundled up before getting into the warmed up car to get to the bus stop.

7:10 Get in the car and head to school super excited about the upcoming school day.

I hope this gives you a little insight into her life and how we keep her home from school time as fun and productive as possible. Her life is full of love, cuddles, and lots of learning.

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3 Ways I make my daughters feel beautiful every day.

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It is very hard to be a five-year-old in today’s society. They are not quite a big girl yet, but not a preschooler anymore either. They are trying to find themselves and who they want to be. This is also when the first think about their appearances.

I can not forget a couple of months ago when my beautiful 5-year-old daughter came to home declaring she is ugly. It made my heart so sad for her instantly. I had not planned for this to happen for a few more years. I had to think of something to do for her and quick. I did her hair the way she wanted me to with two buns on the sides of her head and curled her bangs. I also did her nails and applied children’s lip gloss to her little lips. Then I told her to tell herself she was beautiful in the mirror five times. She had a smile from ear to ear. I am going to share three ways to make your little girl believe she is beautiful. Her little sister often follows her around trying to do these things too.

1.) Encourage her to tell herself she is beautiful.

My little Bobbie and I do this every morning before school. She leaves the house feeling confident and beautiful every day before school. I truly believe this will help her make more friends, and be more successful in school overall.

2.) Give them the freedom to discover themselves.

I used to pick all of her clothes for her and demand she wore them. This did not work at all and only made her unhappy with her appearance. Now I let her wear whatever she wants within reason. We found out together that she loves lip gloss, dresses, and wearing the color pink. Her little sister loves wearing her Lambie shirt, and hats right now. This is a really fun journey that gives us quality time together as she tries to discover her style.

3.) Let them experiment with fun products.

My daughter loves cotton candy so she got tons of products in that scent. They include body wash, shampoo/ conditioner, lotion, and lip gloss. I will talk about the awesome products in my next post in this series. They are all safe for children of all ages.

I hope this gives you an idea of how to help your sweet little girl feel beautiful. I know it helped mine a lot, and maybe it will brighten your daughter’s day as well. Every little girl deserves to feel as cute as they really are.

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My Favorite Christmas Presents for Two year olds

Two-year-olds are very cute and full of adventure. Playing with everything in site. However, they are so busy that finding a great Christmas present they will actually play with for a long time day after day may be quite difficult. I have some great ideas for you today that my two-year-old daughter actually plays with.

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1.) Tree slice wooden lacing toy

This toy is amazing. My daughter loves to play with it for about an hour every day. It was a little hard to lace in the beginning but now she laces it pretty quickly and is now beginning to make a tower with the pieces and then stack the pieces off of her tower. The benefits of this great product include.

  • Great wood scent- provides a sensory experience like being out in nature.
  • Helps with learning fine motor skills
  • Is of great quality. The pieces are nice and smooth.
  • Perfect size for little hands.

 

 

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2.) Heart tic tac toe game

She loves to play this game with her big sister. It provides great quality time with her sister. It also helps her learn to think when she has to decide where to place her pieces. The benefits of this great product are.

  • Heart shape looks so cute enticing my little girls to play with the pieces
  • Builds decision-making skills as they decide where to place the pieces
  • Great size for little hands.
  • Helps my girls spend quiet time together.

Yes, I picked two handmade items off of etsy. I love buying from small businesses. It really helps the owners make money and provide for their families. You should really consider buying from small businesses if you don’t currently. They spend a lot of time and give a ton of love to each product they make and it shows in their product quality.

Nicole

 

 

 

The link between bipolar and sugar

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The link between bipolar and sugar.

A shocking discovery

I have noticed that myself and a lot of other people with bipolar depression have been struggling this time of year. The main reason is they are eating too much sugar, and then staying inside and not exercising because it is getting colder outside.

I personally have been getting grumpier and my medicine is not working the way it once did. I just realized while getting my husband a couple of mini candy bars out of the cabinet that I have been eating too much sugar and it was the reason why I was so grumpy. I couldn’t believe that something so small was making me so grumpy. It was though, there are astounding facts out there about the link of diet and bipolar depression.  

What sugar does to the bipolar mind

It can stop medications from working effectively. These medicines keep people with bipolar stable, and heaving healthy lives. This is not good at all.

It can also make it hard to keep weight off. People will actually gain weight from sugar. It is also addictive so once one piece is eaten it is very hard to stay away from eating another. This is very dangerous especially for people that should not be having a lot of sugar.

Parenting Issues

Sugar can block antidepressants from working. Now I know why I was so unhappy and about to punch something. It wasn’t the fact that my five year old was yelling at me, or my two year old wouldn’t go to bed. The problem was that I ate sugar, and now my pills didn’t work.

I kept myself from yelling at them as much as I could. However my two year old would not go to bed. She knew something was wrong and her daddy had to put her to bed. I need to focus on my girls and take care of myself for them. They should never have to realize that mommy has an issue so now I am getting grumpy at them.

Diet Changes

Right now I am totally staying away from candy bars. I am also drinking tons of water, instead of any pop. I am still having my coffee though. The amount needs to be greatly reduced though.

I am now finding out other things about the bipolar diet. There is an actual way bipolar people are supposed to eat. I had bipolar my whole life and I had no idea about this. I will now be working on writing bipolar meal plans for this blog. I hope I can affect somebody else that is on the same journey as me.

“Mrs.AOK,

Simple Comfort Food Meal plan

This weekend was absolutely crazy in my house. First, it was apple mania. I processed 6 pounds of apples. I made two loaves of apple bread and a double batch of apple sauce.

Then on Sunday it was supposed to be day 2 of apple mania but I got super sick. I still am I have the chills, coughs, and everything hurts so badly that I want to cry. However, life has to go on. I am a mom to my girls and they need me.

This week is going to be a week full of healthy comfort food in my house. The comfort food is also going to be very frugal food so anyone can afford to do this meal plan.

I have some great blog posts that will be out soon I just really need to get better first so just bear with me on this little blogging break. I will be gone for a few more days and then will be posting a lot more.

Breakfast

  • French toast
  • Smoothies with strawberry yogurt, and frozen strawberries- I just mix about 2 cups of yogurt, 6 strawberries, and a cup of milk together in the blender. It comes out so good. My 2-year-old will eat these any time of day!
  • Muffins
  • Pancakes and sausage on the weekend

Lunches

  • Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwiches
  • Tuna Sandwiches
  • Leftovers
  • Possibly smoothies

Snacks

  • Apple Bread
  • Peanuts
  • Applesauce
  • Apples

Dinners

  • Roast beef sandwiches, with white bread, and homemade mac and cheese
  • Pizza
  • Grilled Cheese and cream of mushroom soup
  • quesadillas (with sour cream), tortilla chips, and salsa
  • baked chicken with mashed potatoes
  • chili and cornbread
  • Pulled chicken sandwiches, and chips

Desserts

  • Chocolate Pudding
  • Apple Crisp
  • Apple Bread
  • (Possibly) Apple Pie

This lists included my favorite comfort foods. I hope everyone tries at least one because everyone needs to be able to take a break and eat some good food sometimes.

Nicole

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How your husband can maximize your freelance career

rustic-heart-clipart-rustic-chalkboard-heart-p50lmy-clipart-1It takes a lot of time and energy to be a freelance writer. Throw kids in the mix you are even busier. Sometimes your husband gets ignored in the process. It doesn’t have to be that way. There are simple ways for him to help with your blossoming career.

An Extra Set of Eyes

Without editing and revising your writing project will not reach it’s full potential. Wouldn’t another set of eyes improve your post. Well having the one person who knows you the best in the world would really help you. They could come up with some great content you never thought to add and make your project really soar.

Enlist in Help

There are many post ideas that you two could work on together. Posts about your family, meal planning posts, and product reviews are all things you two could work on together.

A supportive Hand

Computer not working right and lagging maybe they could help you fix it. If anything they could help you calm down and help it not be such a serious problem.
Kids being too loud? Maybe they could put them to bed that night. Surprise! Dads love to spend time with their kids as well. They love to see their kid’s adorable sleeping faces.

Brain Breaks

How about a romantic candlelit dinner before working on your project. I know it doesn’t leave a lot of time for intimacy but it is still a very romantic time together. It also saves some really fun ideas for bed time.

How about a family walk. Hold hands with your husband while walking. This is a quick idea and also gives you exercise that will actually gives you energy.

An Appealing Look

You already need to look professional for skype calls, blog post pictures, or meetings. Why not throw professional clothes on every day. Every husband has their own professional styles they like to see. They know you best so their advice often makes you look your best. Makeup, Certain Colors, or jewelry are all some ideas on how to touch this up.

A Great Life

These ideas should hopefully make your love life and professional life better. I have a challenge starting November 1st to help all of us have a better marriage. Together we will share ideas, and support all while reinvigorating our marriages, and freelancing lives.

Nicole

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