Try, instead of can’t.

For years my husband has been telling me to try things harder. I didn’t believe in myself so I didn’t try as hard as I should. Things like I can’t clean the girls room with a two year old in the same room, or I can’t cook a huge meal when I am tired.

I also have been saying can’t about not being able to drive, because I have my permit but have been so scared to learn how to drive. I couldn’t really stay out of the ditches for the longest time but now that I am getting better intersections really confuse me and now they scare me. What if I go at the wrong time. I also don’t quite know where to turn switching lanes sometimes. It is all really stressful to me.

But lately my four year old as been saying she can’t do things. My lack of confidence is leading to her not believing in myself. So last night I finally got ticked off and said there is no more can’t in my house. I mean it I am not going to say I can’t do anything anymore and will be trying harder than ever. Hopefully my four year old will follow me in this.

When I get into the car instead of having hubby drive I will try to drive more often. I will not chicken out because he will be there to save me if I am unsure. Also I need to just think of what I know and use the knowledge I already have and stop doubting myself. I am really bad at that I always doubt myself when important decisions come up but no more I need to start believing in myself more. If not for me than for my little girls.

I also went completely crazy and actually started cleaning my daughters’ room this morning right away with my two year old helping me. I didn’t even have my coffee right away first. I did however drink it after cleaning for about an hour. A shocking thing happened. It went really well and my two year old actually helped me and after some of it was clean she actually played on her own with a newly discovered toy she really likes her train set. So I am actually ahead on chores today instead of behind and it is all because I tried something new and different in the way I cleaned.

What is something that you think you can’t do. Why don’t you give it a try anyways and see what happens? It could have a really good outcome like me and my daughters’ bedroom!

Nicole

 

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11 thoughts on “Try, instead of can’t.

    • caglechick87 says:

      I can’t believe how happy my girls were with clean room and I told her before I couldn’t get it all cleaned in one day. She asked how I did it and I told her that I tried really hard for her and after that she was so happy she cried and I haven’t heard a can’t from her yet. I am so happy.

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  1. Mama says:

    Best of luck with the new attitude. Sounds like you’re off to a good start already. My wife felt the same way about driving. She overcame it as she was forced to drive after I had a surgery on my back. It wont be long until you’re full of confidence if you keep practicing

    #fartglitter

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  2. ShoeboxofM says:

    I read a blog moons ago that suggested the word ‘try’ with ‘practice’ instead

    http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2015/06/02/practice-makes-perfect-help-cultivate-your-childs-confidence/

    We’ve experimented with it with mixed results. Like you say, tiredness can have a huge impact on motivation and willingness to go with it!

    Well done on the bedroom tidying! Our cubs also ‘help’ with the tidying by making mess just so they can sweep it up / move piles of dirt around the floor / delete as applicable.

    #StayClassy

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    • caglechick87 says:

      Saying practice would definitely be more beneficial. Yeah right now the tiredness is a huge problem. My four year old is getting so tired at the end of her first school year. Sweeping is a great chore for kids.

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  3. sarahandlouisemumstheword says:

    I find that I start delving in to the things I’ve been meaning to do or have been avoiding when I least expect it rather than actually having a plan or set time to make a start.
    Good on you for battling with your ‘can’t’s’ some things do seem overwhelming but don’t give in to your ‘what if?’ thoughts. YOU CAN DO IT!! xx

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  4. The Mum Project says:

    You CAN do it! Go girl! I totally agree, I want to make sure we don’t say “can’t” around the house anymore. The little one’s pick up on everything and I want to be a good role model. Inspiring post, thank you for sharing with #StayClassy.

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    • caglechick87 says:

      Thank you. I already went from driving just around my street, and now I am now able to drive the mile to Walmart so it is getting better slowly. Thank you for the compliment on the post.

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